Healing from Divorce

Dear one who contacted me that you’d just gotten divorced.

How are you doing?

My offer is still open to have a complimentary, 30-minute call, so please  schedule that if you’re ready.  There’s a link at the bottom of this article.

If not, maybe I can offer you something here.

You have my empathy.

As you know from reading around this website, I’ve been there.

I’ve felt that lonely, lost, where-do-I-go-from here feeling you mentioned.

Our feelings of loneliness and abandonment are real.

And it’s normal, too, to feel other unhealed grief move in when we feel down.  All of it is seeking to be acknowledged, felt, and released.

Sometimes a new place of grief allows something old to surface.

When our children are invited places we used to go as a family, we feel like an unwanted outsider no longer in the loop.

This is normal, too.

All of our feelings are valid and are important.

I recommend focusing less on what’s missing and more on yourself, which is good advice in general.  Best not to focus on what’s missing, but to generate feelings of gratitude for our blessings.

Focus on your self-care.  How much more love can you offer yourself?  Can you take longer baths?  Buy yourself flowers?  Sit in silence to receive all the light and love you can hold?

Consider relating to your ex and children in new ways that honor yourself, especially if you hadn’t been doing this before.

Breathe and pause before answering emails from your ex.

Seek ways to forgive yourself and him, and be grateful for the years you shared and the family you created.

Remember that your healing from this deep separation of your mate is a process and a journey.

Each day is a new day to step into new habits of gentleness and care for your sweet self and for all whom you encounter.

You have my blessings for your recovery from this pain, and for your life to evolve into one of deep peace and joy.

 

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